Would I say that to a child?

I am so hard on myself.  I say things to myself I would never say to a friend.  Shouldn't I be my BEST FRIEND?!  I'm learning to be kinder to myself.  I wouldn't have thought it could be this difficult.

And recently I heard something I really like.  "Would I say that to a child?"  The things said to children shape their lives.  So if I stop before saying something to myself or someone else and ask if I would ever make that comment to a child . . . most likely the answer will be NO!

I am reshaping my life -- in so many ways.  I like the journey I'm traveling.  It isn't easy but I guess nothing worth a fight is easy.

And then there is knowing how incredibly lucky I am.  I am incredibly lucky.  This summer was so challenging and my friends came to my rescue.  I am trying to learn how to share my struggle.  I don't do this very well.  I find it easier to simply listen to others and help when I can.  But they came and stood by my side.  Wow!  What a lucky woman I am.

And then to K - I'm sorry.  I was so hard on you.  I don't know what else I can do to help because I know how bad things are for you.  I am in pain with you.  I wish I could make it all go away.  Here's what I do know . . . those who are truly evil (and we all know who he is), do get what they deserve.  Sadly we may never see it, but it comes.  And I do believe the trick is to rise above it.  I will do anything and everything I can in this fight.  I'm here for you -- always and forever.

If we can be better to ourselves, we will be better to others.  I'm trying each and everyday.